I need

a woman\'s perspective on this problem. I suppose it might help if you were a dancer, but you do not have to

be.

I do a lot of dancing, not like jumping around in a club to techno, but rather salsa, which requires the

lead-follow thing and quite a bit of technical skill. Over the months, something has caused me a lot of confusion,

and I think I MAY be becoming enlightened as to what is going on. The situation is that there are a few women that I

take dance lessons with,and we also hang around the same club afterwards. Without going into detail(unless you want

them), I have often been convinced that one or another of these women is really into me. I conclude this from things

they do during the lesson, and from things they do outside the lesson. HOWEVER, when I ask one of these women to

dance they often look horrified! Furthermore, they seem to not enjoy dancing with me at all, and their dance

competence appears to be quite bad. Thus, I will avoid asking them to dance for quite some time, but if I ask again,

the same thing happens. I have been totally confused by this. I asked a woman friend recently and she suggested

something that I had not thought of. She dances and she claims that the last person in the world she ever wants to

dance with is a man that she is attracted to. She says she absolutely cannot do it, I guess from the nervousness,

awkwardness, self-consciousness or whatever you want to blame it on. So, I am starting to think that maybe this

explains the confusion that I have been experiencing? Maybe I am not wrong when I intuit that these women have a

thing for me? I am talking some serious confusion here. When I ask some of these women to dance they look like I

just told them that one of there relatives died or something.

Any input on this one?